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A Quiet Rebellion

A Quiet Rebellion

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Kim White
Jun 29, 2025
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Letting things go can be easy when they cause you pain, but when the thing you are letting go of is a person, the hurt can deepen. Letting go can be the small choices made over time that will completely alter your future. It can be tear-soaked pillows and prayers uttered at bedtime. It can be journaled thoughts and feelings, in an attempt to make sense of it all. And letting go can be standing up for yourself by creating distance from the source of the pain and the one who hurt you.

This isn’t easy to do. Choosing yourself isn’t always what comes naturally when the one you are moving on from is also someone you’ve loved.

These millions of choices, prayers, tears, and feelings brought you here now. All of these quiet, rebellious actions are an attempt to seek a better outcome than the one you know. Self-preservation and truth need to win. You can only do what you can do, and although you try your best, you can’t make anyone do anything, including what is right. You can’t make someone repent of the pain they’ve inflicted on you.

You can’t make someone regret their choices that continue to cause you suffering.

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